Worry is Wasteful

For months, I’ve been meditating on the intuitive trust of a child. After much prayer and reading, God began revealing examples to me clearer than ever — through the lives of young saints who have gone before us, current saints on this earth, and even something as simple as tending to my nephew.

I believe that the older we get, the harder it is for us to trust. Why? Because of the experiences we have gone through and the knowledge we’ve obtained. We like practicality. We like things to make sense. The older I got, the more I journeyed through a “show me” phase. I wanted to understand God’s plans at that moment. And if I didn’t understand His way, I’d shape my own. Slowly but surely, through prayer and God’s grace, the need of having everything make sense began dwindling. The “show me” mentality gradually transformed to “You’re not revealing Your plans at this time because I’m not ready to understand them, but I’m still here because I trust You.” From the start of Advent until now (just a little over a week till the start of Lent), the Lord is still nudging me, “My Child, trust Me!” Every single day, in all seasons, and for every single battle going on in our lives, God wants an unwavering trust in Him.

Below is Fr. Jack’s homily from tonight’s Mass at my school. (I would’ve taken notes, but I left my journal at home. Luckily after Mass, while waiting for my mom as she used the restroom, I picked up the Arlington Catholic Herald and bam, Fr. Jack’s homily was in there.) What a beautiful reminder of this beautiful trust in God the Father!

Why are you anxious?

Jesus instructs His disciples, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven” (Mt 18:3). One quality of children that Jesus must have had in mind is their trust in their parents. It is pretty amazing how fearless a toddler can be when Mom and Dad are around. They operate with this beautiful sense that everything will be OK because Mom or Dad is nearby. Toddlers run around, often with a reckless abandon, because they have a deep sense that their parents are never far away, they always have an eye on them, they never let anything really bad happen to them, and their love is immeasurable.

Jesus comes down to this earth to accomplish several really important tasks. He engages in a relationship with each of us, extends His infinite mercy to us, reconciles us to our heavenly Father, reveals what it means to be truly human and shows us the path to true happiness. In this process, Jesus reveals to a hurting world the face of the Father, “my father and your father” (Jn 20:17). Dwelling for all eternity in a perfect union with the Father in the Holy Spirit, Jesus is very aware of the Father’s power, wisdom and care for His children.

With all of this knowledge in mind coupled with a heart that aches for us, Jesus pleads three times with His disciples in this week’s Gospel reading from Matthew: “Do not worry.” Do not worry “about your life,” “clothes,” “what you are to eat” nor “about tomorrow.” If we really know God like a child and believe that He is never far away, He has His eye on us, He will not let anything really bad happen, and His love for us is immeasurable, then we no longer live in fear, filled with anxiety. On the contrary, we fearlessly wander through life radically trusting that God is right by our side and will make everything work out in the end.

In reality, worrying sucks the life out of us. It wastes so much time: “Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span?” (Mt 6:27). It drains us of energy that can be better spent on other constructive fronts. It distracts our attention from more important matters like prayer, acts of charity and fulfilling daily responsibilities. It puts the focus on our fears, which cripple us on the journey to holiness and joy.

On the contrary, Jesus desires that we have faith. Faith empowers us to trust that God will provide for our most important needs: “If God so clothes the grass of the field, which grows today and is thrown into the oven tomorrow, will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith.” Faith is the conviction that we are important to God. Commenting on how wonderfully God provides for the birds in the sky, Our Lord says rather directly, “Are not you more important than they?” Faith gives us a remarkable strength that can’t be explained by accounting or scientific methods. This strength comes from a meaningful encounter with Jesus Christ.

The grace of faith enables us to place radical trust in God. We work hard to carry out His will and stop in a flash when asked, knowing that everything is in His hands. We are completely focused on the task at hand and also ready to let go and move on when He calls. We can be in the midst of a great trial and be surprisingly calm because we have the conviction that our amazing God loves us and wants what is absolutely best for us.

Faith makes the young and the not-so-young strong in the face of danger or suffering. I think of how St. Therese of Lisieux faced her slow painful death from Tuberculosis at the age of 23 with much courage and trust. She exercised great charity with her sisters, prayed with fervor to her Lord, and obediently finished her autobiography at the beckoning of her superior right up to the very end. Pope John Paul II, soon to be declared venerable, was a man of deep faith and trust in God. He tenaciously preached, encouraged and worked to build up solidarity in Poland, which helped to bring about a peaceful end to communism in Eastern Europe.

Let us pray. Heavenly Father, give us a child-like faith in You. May we travel through life with the knowledge that, through Your Son, You are near us always. Help us to take refuge in Your infinite mercy. Come into our hearts, help us to stop worrying and place our trust in You. We make this prayer through Jesus Christ, Our Lord, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God forever and ever. Amen.

(Fr. Jack Peterson is assistant chaplain at Marymount University in Arlington and director of the Youth Apostles Institute in McLean.)

The more we get to know Him, especially when we spend time in His Presence, the more we understand His plans. I’ll always be praying for growth of that radical child-like trust in the Father (in the simplest of things to the most difficult) for myself and for you. Don’t worry, Faye. Don’t worry, brothers and sisters. Don’t worry.

By Fatima

wife + mom. sustainability strategist, interior designer, writer. sharing faith and our growing domestic church. creating a slow, sustainable, low waste home.

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